Being and Staying Creative, Maintaining your state of mind Options

Hey guys, I need some feedback, advices and insights here to think out my my box (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

Well, I am currently single and looking for new preys (IMG:style_emoticons/default/5.gif) and to be truly effective it is important that I stay creative, meaning that I have to be cocky and funny at most of the time. Often I forgot about the funny part (most important) and end up being a jerk. Generally, I am the serious and quite type, also this is sometimes hard since being melancholic I'm allowed to have depression from time to time (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)

So, as simple as it sound, what would you advice, suggest me to try or improve on please?

Well Kinjo, if you come across as too clever, you might a girl off or she might be impressed.

I certainly think it would be wise to keep the less desirable aspects of your personality in the background to begin with.

If you are too creative and funny and you have to try too hard, what will happen when she finds out that this was just a way of winning her and really you are not like that for most of the time?

The best way forward is to do something creative together, like share a leisure activity of some kind ie: painting, rambling, mending an old boat or something and be your natural self so that someone loves you for who you are and you don't have to struggle to keep being creative and clever all of the time, boy, that sounds so stressful.

A lot of inital attraction is in how someone looks, I mean, you could be the funniest and most interesting guy in town, but if the girl doesn't fancy you, you will only become a very witty friend who is good to have a conversation with.

A lot of inital attraction is in how someone looks, I mean, you could be the funniest and most interesting guy in town, but if the girl doesn't fancy you, you will only become a very witty friend who is good to have a conversation with.

I'd have to say that in my experience the initial attraction is the personality that is beamed around you (aura? i dunno ;D)

The ugliest person could also be the most attractive due to the energyfield around them, anyways, that's just me, maybe other ppl ignore them and go for looks (but they dont, they just dont know it, admit it im right hehe ;P)

Thanks for the replies. I'd like to clarify a few things.

Well Kinjo, if you come across as too clever, you might a girl off or she might be impressed

It's not much about being clever, but being confident, self reliant and in control (cocky) and being cool, calm, playful and naughty (funny)

A lot of inital attraction is in how someone looks, I mean, you could be the funniest and most interesting guy in town....

How someone look is indeed important, but IMO it's not "that" important (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) I did went on a date with slippers, knee length shorts, casual shirt and she'd still be all over me - that is when I am being creative and busting her balls - making her laughing most of the time, having fun while giving her time and space for her imagination to think about me, when I am not with her (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wizard.gif) I am supposed to implant this as my own personality.

...but if the girl doesn't fancy you, you will only become a very witty friend who is good to have a conversation with.

True, and I will not be able to attract anyone who is NOT suitable for my personality, however, I will often only date the ones who has a high interest level in me to start with (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) Then "I" will decide whether will they'll be worth my time or not. If yes, then it is up to me to keep this interest level to stay high. To me, well ideally... Normal = Boring. And I often define normal when I am not being creative being aloof and ignorant when I should not. I need to consistently break free from my self-limiting shell. Not to say that I want/have to be witty all the time though.

My problem is I often not find the mood and energies needed to be creative, cocky and funny, and unconsciously revert to being boring, play safe and predictable Mr.Nice Guy until I realized my prey is slipping away and prefer me as a guy friend instead of the mysterious, unpredictable, challenging stud she is designed to be compelled and try to tame (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rofl.gif) I'm figuring various ways to stay on my game most of the time and I hope I've further clarified my points. Thanks for any further insights.

The ugliest person could also be the most attractive due to the energyfield around them, anyways, that's just me, maybe other ppl ignore them and go for looks (but they dont, they just dont know it, admit it im right hehe ;P)

Yes true, but that energy field/aura is there in the first place since consciously or unconsciously he created an "attraction servitor" with the use of his patterns of thinking and beliefs. I have not been able to achieve that - not currently.

This post has been edited by | Kinjo: Jan 15 2006, 04:33 PM

Yes true, but that energy field/aura is there in the first place since consciously or unconsciously he created an "attraction servitor" with the use of his patterns of thinking and beliefs. I have not been able to achieve that - not currently.

It's not even a servitor - it's much more simple.

A principle I've always used is just to pick a concept that you want to attach to their perceptions ("I'm alpha", "Don't see me", whatever) and repeat it in your head a few times. Once you've got yourself focused on it, expand it out into the physical space around you (that's really the best way I can describe it).

Really simple trick. I call them glamours, since they specifically target people's perceptions, but I'm not sure if there's an "official" name for it.

A principle I've always used is just to pick a concept that you want to attach to their perceptions ("I'm alpha", "Don't see me", whatever) and repeat it in your head a few times. Once you've got yourself focused on it, expand it out into the physical space around you (that's really the best way I can describe it).

I used to use that trick too, it works wonderfully. But I also agree with Kinjo that that kind of attitude is almost necessary in order to make a girl attracted. Some may say that's generalizing, and but girls (and guys too - don't get me wrong) really ARE that predictable and almost every one of them will fall into the same traps, whether one realizes it or not.
I say used to, though, because I don't play the predator/prey game anymore. Once you know the secrets, it's like cheating in a video game, and it loses its luster.
The best way I found to stay creative is to picture yourself as you would like to be around "prey", and then assimilate that personality, essentially making it your own day-to-day personality. It gets easy once you fall into the groove of that personality, and never feels like you're "faking it".

I think it's natural and acceptable to play the game (or cheat at it
(IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif) ) for a while, but also counter-productive as far as spiritual growth goes. The reason these techniques seem to work is probably genetic... as Zahaqiel said, subconsiously telling the girl "I'm alpha", which (despite any moral reservations) she will respond to biologically. The end goal of the whole process, of course, to reproduce. Seems like just another samsaric attachment to me, but definitely open to interpretation.

Cocky and funny...

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Hey guys, I need some feedback, advices and insights here to think out my my box (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

Well, I am currently single and looking for new preys (IMG:style_emoticons/default/5.gif) and to be truly effective it is important that I stay creative, meaning that I have to be cocky and funny at most of the time. Often I forgot about the funny part (most important) and end up being a jerk. Generally, I am the serious and quite type, also this is sometimes hard since being melancholic I'm allowed to have depression from time to time (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)

So, as simple as it sound, what would you advice, suggest me to try or improve on please?

Dude, just be nice to her, throw in the odd joke. it always works for me.... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blablabla.gif)

kinjo-san.

Sabishi da naaaaa.

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ganbate, ne!

The Wanderer