QUOTE(Radiant Star @ Nov 23 2005, 05:22 PM)
The ego is necessary, the idea that we should try to destroy it is nonsense. The ego is a saviour at times.
I don't think there is any mastery of the dark night or any part of life; life is just a series of cycles and changes and re-visits.
Our own conditioning and resulting thought patterns can be changed, but it is often only temporary since our past is a strong part of our history.
The only way forward in my experience is to get to know and understand ourselves as much as we can so that we can see how we ourselves have an effect on how we are feeling and watch out for the parts of ourselves that seem to go against each other.
This is where meditation has helped me so much, it seems to ground me and I get to notice my moods and feelings and as each stage of life passes, I can add more to my memories of how I handled the bits of me that I found uncomfortable, with each cycle, its get easier - it still often causes the same feelings, but we learn how to manage it all a lot better.
I fully agree on the ego bit! Not destroy it but make it work for you (IMG:
style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) The ego is our tool in this world, we wouldn't get very far without it.
Meditation definatly helps! Well that and daily ritual.
Athena