Being and Staying Creative, Maintaining your state of mind Options

Hey guys, I need some feedback, advices and insights here to think out my my box (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

Well, I am currently single and looking for new preys (IMG:style_emoticons/default/5.gif) and to be truly effective it is important that I stay creative, meaning that I have to be cocky and funny at most of the time. Often I forgot about the funny part (most important) and end up being a jerk. Generally, I am the serious and quite type, also this is sometimes hard since being melancholic I'm allowed to have depression from time to time (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)

So, as simple as it sound, what would you advice, suggest me to try or improve on please?

Thanks for the replies. I'd like to clarify a few things.

Well Kinjo, if you come across as too clever, you might a girl off or she might be impressed

It's not much about being clever, but being confident, self reliant and in control (cocky) and being cool, calm, playful and naughty (funny)

A lot of inital attraction is in how someone looks, I mean, you could be the funniest and most interesting guy in town....

How someone look is indeed important, but IMO it's not "that" important (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) I did went on a date with slippers, knee length shorts, casual shirt and she'd still be all over me - that is when I am being creative and busting her balls - making her laughing most of the time, having fun while giving her time and space for her imagination to think about me, when I am not with her (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wizard.gif) I am supposed to implant this as my own personality.

...but if the girl doesn't fancy you, you will only become a very witty friend who is good to have a conversation with.

True, and I will not be able to attract anyone who is NOT suitable for my personality, however, I will often only date the ones who has a high interest level in me to start with (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) Then "I" will decide whether will they'll be worth my time or not. If yes, then it is up to me to keep this interest level to stay high. To me, well ideally... Normal = Boring. And I often define normal when I am not being creative being aloof and ignorant when I should not. I need to consistently break free from my self-limiting shell. Not to say that I want/have to be witty all the time though.

My problem is I often not find the mood and energies needed to be creative, cocky and funny, and unconsciously revert to being boring, play safe and predictable Mr.Nice Guy until I realized my prey is slipping away and prefer me as a guy friend instead of the mysterious, unpredictable, challenging stud she is designed to be compelled and try to tame (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rofl.gif) I'm figuring various ways to stay on my game most of the time and I hope I've further clarified my points. Thanks for any further insights.

The ugliest person could also be the most attractive due to the energyfield around them, anyways, that's just me, maybe other ppl ignore them and go for looks (but they dont, they just dont know it, admit it im right hehe ;P)

Yes true, but that energy field/aura is there in the first place since consciously or unconsciously he created an "attraction servitor" with the use of his patterns of thinking and beliefs. I have not been able to achieve that - not currently.

This post has been edited by | Kinjo: Jan 15 2006, 04:33 PM