About This Girl.., I'm also new (1st post) Options

I have a friend who I always go to his house, and a bunch of other people go there, and we hang out and get high, and just do random stuff. Recently his 19 year old sister moved in with him, and she hung out in his room for a while, and me and her became pretty good friends, but recently, she hasnt been hanging out, and im really starting to miss hanging out with her, in fact, i think im in love with her. she always locks herself in her room, and i cant seem to get to really talk to her, because she always seems depressed. but i have pretty strong feelings for her.

I dont know, but its really frusterating, i want to talk to her and become closer with her, but its kind of hard when you cant interact with her, you know what i mean? do any of you have any tips or suggestions for me? it would be very appreciated.

This post has been edited by TheToology: Feb 7 2007, 02:10 AM

wo0w your method is really staightforward, but i think i'll try it..

The way to get good with a particular woman is to get good with women in general.Try out the mystery method(google it)it single handedly quadrupled my love and sex life..

Um, I'm gay, first of all, so my advice is naturally suspect, but what I have found women to tell me when they think it will not be repeated, is that they get tired of meeting men who have plans from the get go. They have a strategy worked out to get into their pants, and the problem is that its so hard to tell the difference between the sincere guy and the guy who's just a good strategist. And eventually, they find out, and that's when they realize they've been had. They say it sucks to meet a guy who they thought was just genuinely good, when it turned out that's just the costume he wore to sleep with them.

So, my advice, is to genuinely focus on her. Get to know her likes and tastes, get to know how she feels about things, be her friend for its own sake, and put your agenda away for a bit. Like smasher said, don't tell her about your feelings because they don't need to be discussed yet, and you should really know her first anyway. If you show real, genuine interest in WHO she is, and expose yourself (psychologically!) by letting her know who you are, then eventually she'll recognize what she's got, and that's the moment to lay the kiss. It'll be a sudden light of recognition in her eyes, most likely accompanied by a big smile.

Don't use it as a strategy to get with her, drop the strategy all together and treat her like a person you really really like. If you have an agenda, it will be exposed eventually, women are clever creatures, far, FAR more clever than most men realize in fact, and in this day and age, they have gay friends to inform them of the hardwired aspects of the male psyche. My closest girl-friends no longer get played at all, and most of them managed to realize they had guys on the wing who were perfect as they were for how they felt, not how they acted.

peace