About This Girl.., I'm also new (1st post) Options

I have a friend who I always go to his house, and a bunch of other people go there, and we hang out and get high, and just do random stuff. Recently his 19 year old sister moved in with him, and she hung out in his room for a while, and me and her became pretty good friends, but recently, she hasnt been hanging out, and im really starting to miss hanging out with her, in fact, i think im in love with her. she always locks herself in her room, and i cant seem to get to really talk to her, because she always seems depressed. but i have pretty strong feelings for her.

I dont know, but its really frusterating, i want to talk to her and become closer with her, but its kind of hard when you cant interact with her, you know what i mean? do any of you have any tips or suggestions for me? it would be very appreciated.

This post has been edited by TheToology: Feb 7 2007, 02:10 AM

I kinda agree with Vagrent . . .
I'm not a young kid anymore, and been married for quite a while . . . so I don't have a big need to "aquire" girls affections. In that light, I've found many girl (I tend to associate with folks younger then myself . . . just per work and school) aren't all that impressed with nifty games. I've often heard much the same thing as Vagrent relates. (I guess I am assumed "safe" . . . and probably am)

My suggestion, don't play games . . . the whole coy (mysterious) thing is actually pretty obvious. And even if your so much better at then the all the rest of the guys, most girls (aware and intellegent ones at least) expect it anyway.

If you like her, and she likes you . . . eventually you two will have anothe moment of close times. When that happens, just let her know you like her. Its really that simple. And if you never have another close-time with her . . . then I guess you'd know then what she thought.

Be nice, be supportive and compassionate. Maybe she's having personal (inner) problems, maybe she's has some mild mental/chemical thing (bipolar...), maybe its just her time (of the month or just in life). Let her know that if she needs someone to talk to . . . or to just get out with, your a friend. Then wait.

Sometime later (when she's spending time with her) just plain-old let her know you "like" her and would like the chance to go on a date (or whatever).

I feel comfortable in saying, I think many girls would find it appriciatively refreshing if guys just were straight-up and not always playing some kindof "how do I impress her without it being obvious" game.

honesty.

(though I'll say . . . I may be getting old)

This post has been edited by palindroem: Feb 9 2007, 01:09 PM