Ego, What is Ego? Options

As a person, I have a big ego. I want to win at all costs. I want this and that. I simply want to have it my way. I want the cake and the icing too. I am spoiled and always want to take more than I give back. Is this an example of an Ego?

My ego boost me to gain riches, health, love and many other conquests.
My ego also make new enemies, destroy and corrupt various aspects of me and my environment consciously and subconsciously.

What is EGO? What does this word means?
How do you define it? How do you keep it your slave instead of it enslaving you?
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that's to make as many people as possible look and feel good, even to one's own detriment.

Thats a dangerous statement, and one that could do you under in the future if you truly believe it. I know many people that follow a moral code like that and destroy their selves and ended up in depressions or worse because of it.

Always place your own health and important need above others.

Also other peoples happiness does not depend on your actions alone...

Are you sending all your money to poor country's to the extent that you don't have any money left to buy yourself food, clothing...

I don't bother with either of these. Dividing the mind only leads to trouble.

That is entirely true.
I would like to add that the concept of an ego is just a tool for dividing the mind. The ego itself does not exist, it is just a word with certain mental activities associated with it. In truth these activities are not depended on a thing called ego at all.These mental activities are just thoughts and things that happen in the mind. The ego cannot be killed or silenced, because it does not exist.

Selfishness is something I try to avoid. It has no bearing on willpower, and I find it socially unacceptable. Selfishness, however, is not willpower - it is, in fact, the lack of willpower. It's easy to want to try and make yourself look and feel better than everyone else. Real willpower comes from being able to do what's right - and generally, that's to make as many people as possible look and feel good, even to one's own detriment.

Again, i do not agree. Willpower and selfishness have nothing to do with each other. If it is your will do do a certain tasks, it is your willpower that pulls you trough it. If you use your will to counter selfishness then you do so by willpower. If i use my will to achieve certain selfish results then that is also willpower.

Trying to avoid selfishness is foolish, and I don't like this kind of black and white thinking. I am sure you are plenty selfish, or you would be dead already.


Actually this kind of reasoning is futile. The world is a complex place, and the mind has to deal with each situation in a different way. At some times acting selfish may be the right thing to do, and on other times being selfish is wrong.
Sometimes you have to listen to the advise of the ego, other times your ego is out of control.

It all depends on each specific situation. Thats what i meant by being free, and inventing yourself. If you have to measure each situation to some sort of moral code, then you are not wise at all...