Ego, What is Ego? Options

As a person, I have a big ego. I want to win at all costs. I want this and that. I simply want to have it my way. I want the cake and the icing too. I am spoiled and always want to take more than I give back. Is this an example of an Ego?

My ego boost me to gain riches, health, love and many other conquests.
My ego also make new enemies, destroy and corrupt various aspects of me and my environment consciously and subconsciously.

What is EGO? What does this word means?
How do you define it? How do you keep it your slave instead of it enslaving you?
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So I should place my own health above someone else's? I should be allowed to punch someone to prevent them punching me? That's arrogant!

What i meant is punching someone who punched you first.
Or avoiding someone who would like to punch you. Perhaps punching you makes him happy, Am i being selfish when i avoid being punched?

The point is that their are many shades of grey on this point.
Being completely unselfish is a futile attempt, and it will do nobody any good.

People around you will al turn to being selfish people making use of you, if you are to white in your thinking. On the black side you will be regarded as someone that is unfriendly and you will probably be hated.

The right thing to do is to find the correct shade of grey in between.

two short storys:

I refuse help on a daily basis, because i don't give people the quick fix.
My brother asked me to help him with his homework, basicly he expected me to solve all the problems for him. I refused and told him to study certain pages in his book. It would have taken me 3 minutes to do his homework, it took him an hour. He was quite mad at me at that time. But later he did understand the theory of his lessons because of it.
That appeared selfish to many people in my house, my mom was furious at me and i had a hard time because of it.

When I have exams for school i don't help around the house anymore. When people come to me for advise or help i refuse them. I make sure i study hard and pass my exams. And of course i do try to relax a fair amount of time, wich i could use for helping people. It is selfish of me, relaxing before helping people that ask me for help. But if i don't relax i can't perform at my best on my exams...


A different point of view.
A pedofile takes joy in raping young girls. Are these young girls being selfish by not letting themselves be raped? Clearly they are denying pleasure and joy to someone else, so it must be selfish of them?
That's why being selfish is a good thing!!!

(sorry for any spelling errors, i don't have spelling control on this box)