Rather Difficult Situation ... Binding With Mirror Box? Options

Hi everyone

i joined the forum today (put an introduction of myself on the coffee shop section) I have been practising the magickal arts (of various flavours) alone for the last 10 years or so: from pagan to Eastern and now I focus on High Magick, but I take all the techniques with me, if you see what I mean.

The situation I find myself in at the moment is this: for the last year or so I have been bullied by a group of people - causing gossip, telling lies about me to others, trying to ruin my reputation, occasionally physical threats, this affected me very badly to the extent that I became very anxious and agoraphobic (I just wanted to be in my own space). Through various rituals it became clear to me that this was a repetition of a pattern from a (very abusive) past. So I have been making efforts to strengthen my own protection and increase my self-acceptance - rather than just avoiding people; as I started living a kind of half life, it has been affecting my personal growth and ability to do the work I am here to do, and also I am pleased to say that I have new opportunities and some big decisions to make and I would like to do it without thinking of those issues.

But I do want to put a halt to the negativity or rather keep it with the perpetrators so that it just doesn't touch me.

I have done my best to resolve the situation over the last year or so, on the physical plane, so I think it is time to act now. What would you all advise? Any experiences/success stories?

One question is do I bind or banish? I have thought about doing a mirror box ritual (i.e. making a familiar and then putting that in a box made of mirrors facing inwards so that their energies remain with them) would I have to do a separate one for each person? can I put circumstances into the box? or even institutions? I would like to resolve the current situation and the initial situation (where the pattern was formed).

Also, i was thinking of doing the ritual on Samhain - would this be a good idea? I will also be doing magick to strengthen myself and also to ready myself to take new opportunities: would I be able to do both this and a banishing/binding?

Sorry for so many questions - I seem to have been spending too much time alone

Lily

Sorry, you have been having the troubles you have been having. I have to admit I never have had that type of problem.

Let me rephrase, I have never had that type of reaction to that type of behavior. I tend to be a chameleon when it comes to social interaction. This has good and bad effects for me, however I am always seeing what I can adjust.

We humans are creatures of patterns and habits, to break out of our habits and patterns requires effort and perceived risk.

I would look into 3-2-1 Shadow-Work Process or some similar concepts.

In essence this is objectifying something that is happening.

In 321 you start with the object in the third person, and then work to second person and lastly you become the other person or object. This allows for the emotional charge to still exist but to view it not as it is affecting us, but as an object.

There is a great deal of other good exercises for this or seminars and such. There are things where solitary practice is just not good for in earthing out. I am hesitant in recommending any because the good ones I have been to, have been hellish while I was there, but in the end I was totally happy for having been there.

There is a big underling topic to my practice, that is that I can only control my reaction to things, everything else I can influence but not control. The goal of my practice is learning to perceive where the minimum of effort can be applied to have the desired outcome I want.

So, I would not go with using magic on others when reoccurring patterns are coming up, it is only changing the symptoms and not the cause of the situation, it is only a temporary fix.

I would also go for a drastic change, reinvent yourself, take a new outlook on your past, don’t change it, take the same things and think of them in an empowering way. Doing this is walking through hell, trust me, but it also can lead to a much more wonderful place.

The immediate goal is changing your internal dialog. If you change the way you think about things and yourself you change perspectives on all things.

I know this does not answer your question, but I hope it adds something to your practice.

I'd agree with most of what Paxx said, but it does sound to me like you've been doing a lot of personal work in addition to thinking about some kind of magick, which is a responsible way to handle problems. However, I think that if you go ahead with the mirror box and continue doing the personal work, then that is a good combination. Magick should, in my opinion, always go along with an earnest desire for self transformation - a lot of people do magick for binding or banishing and then just leave it, and wonder why their magick isn't as effective as it could be. but it sounds like you've got a good reasonable handle on it, so I'd say go ahead.

As far as the mirror box goes, I haven't done one with mirrors before but I've done what we called 'bind boxes' in the past, some people I think call them curse boxes as well, where we essentially made symbols or figures representing the negative issues, put them in the box, sealed it with wax, and the buried it. In combination with personal work of course, like what Paxx mentioned, changing internal dialogue, I have put multiple issues, including negative people in my life, into a single box and it worked just fine, so I'd say it will probably work similarly with the mirror box. I would suggest if not burying it somewhere, at least keep it out of your personal space or temple area if you have one.

Good luck, and I'm also sorry to hear that you're having the problems in the first place, but after all, it's those difficulties in life that make us stronger in the end. And theres no reason not to use magick to help overcome such issues - magick isn't a crutch, it's a facilitator; it creates a kind of laser scope for our intentions and helps to keep us on track internally as well as giving the external world a nudge to make it easier, as long as we do the work, of course.

peace