I agree with you Bym; it often takes personal suffering to truly understand the wish to leave this plane. I know it well having been through this at the height of some physical and emotional suffering some years back.
This is just our physical life, we live on, if we decide to go sooner it needs to be a decision made with due consideration to the people we will leave behind, but also, there comes a point when the people left must accept that it would be selfish to have us stay if we are suffering without hope of recovery or reasonable quality of life.
I don't think we have to come back or take longer to incarnate again or any other thing if we go early; I think there is work to be done on all planes and if we haven't been able to use our gifts here (having tried) I am pretty certain that we get to be useful elsewhere.
People who seem to be for life at any cost remind me of the Catholic girls who may have been raped but are refused abortions by the people who are so pro-life. It makes a loving 'God' out to be a bad, bad person.
*Not sure I have put this very well, please take it in the spirit it is intended without due attention to the possible clumsiness of each word (IMG:
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