To Forgive and To Forget, Really... how do you do it? Options

Have you had someone really important and beloved to you do something really bad/dissapointing/whatever to you which you simply cannot forgive, not to mention to forget? When in the end you ended up filled with so much hate, mixed with love and resentment no matter what you've tried to really forget and forgive? And the feeling still there like for 2 years as it kept popping into your head even when you were not intentionally want to think and when you least expected it? Well, maybe I'm in a bad mood today, but really... I want to hear your thoughts and experience on dealing with this.

Well, it's not really "offical", it's just my expertise...

You know those wrinkles on your brain? Welll, those are rippels of memories that your mind has stored over time. As a baby, your brain is completely smooth, because your memeories have yet to develop (which is the reason that no one remembers their first birth).

The same holds true spiritually, memories are kept track in your spirit because those are vital to your spiritual development. In doing so, you change according to what you have experianced, and what you learned from it (heartbreck, faith, etc.). As your metallity changes, so does your spirit, and vice verca....

Now, one ritual I did was to break the negative energy of a young man named Daniel. He had suffered many negative experiances in his life. Thus, this energy affected his behavior and was beginning to cause problems for not only himself, but everyone around him.

So by a favor from his exgirlfriend, we created a ritual that would break the memories he had, so that he could rebuild himself in a positive way...

Well, it worked, a bit too well unfortunatly... He ended up trying to attone for his sins, and tried to be a more noble, better spirit than what he was....

But at least I can say he's happier now than what he was eariler...