Should I Ask An Older Woman Out On A Date? Options

Unusual topic? Maybe. Just curious as to what y'all think.

I can't really tell if she's interested in me or not, and I am 20 - I would guess she is 40 or 45. I can't tell if she would be flattered or merely laugh that a kid would ask her out. I don't mind being laughed at, but I have to see her somewhat often, so it could be awkward. I am immune to humiliation, but I'd rather not make her uncomfortable.

I know no one else knows what I personally "should" do; I just want some other opinions on my prospects. Can a 20-year-old ask a middle-aged woman out on a date? Is it done? Is it socially unacceptable?

I resolved at around age 5 not to have anything to do with people, and so far the only people I've really had to deal with are my professors... so I'm unsure about these things. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/13.gif) (My initial plan was to ask "wanna bang?"... but it has been suggested to me that this is a poor approach.)

This post has been edited by Vilhjalmr: Jun 16 2010, 03:34 AM

Unusual topic? Maybe. Just curious as to what y'all think.

I can't really tell if she's interested in me or not, and I am 20 - I would guess she is 40 or 45. I can't tell if she would be flattered or merely laugh that a kid would ask her out. I don't mind being laughed at, but I have to see her somewhat often, so it could be awkward. I am immune to humiliation, but I'd rather not make her uncomfortable.

I know no one else knows what I personally "should" do; I just want some other opinions on my prospects. Can a 20-year-old ask a middle-aged woman out on a date? Is it done? Is it socially unacceptable?

I resolved at around age 5 not to have anything to do with people, and so far the only people I've really had to deal with are my professors... so I'm unsure about these things. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/13.gif) (My initial plan was to ask "wanna bang?"... but it has been suggested to me that this is a poor approach.)

Dude, trust that for any young male of 20 to ask a woman of 40-45, the woman would probably be pinching herself. I don't suggest coming straight out with... wanna bang!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) She would probably perceive you as just some randy kid tryna get his shaft wet (IMG:style_emoticons/default/evil.gif)
The best way would be to come across somewhat mature. Ask her if she would like to get a coffee, then start asking questions about her... if you seem generally interested in her she'll be pleased and then the come back to mine if you want line will be eased.