Can You Honor My Friend? Options

My best friend has killed himself. I found a suicide note he left me today, and called his grandparents, but he had already done the deed.

Now I don't know what to do. I am his only friend, and his grandparents his only family, and I am too far away (he went home for the holidays) to attend his funeral in time. There is no one else to remember him.

I want to keep his memory alive, honor him in some way, but what can I do?

I have nothing of the spiritual in me, so if any of you could find it in your heart to say a prayer or light a candle or whatever you feel appropriate for Kent Shepherd, a good person and better friend despite being a lonely and unfortunate man, you would be do a good thing. He deserves something more than the ramblings of a single drunkard.

Thanks.

This post has been edited by Vilhjalmr: Nov 28 2010, 04:34 AM

I think writing a statement is the right thing to do, in a way it's all that can be done. If you so feel write more than one statement, write an obituary of pure fantasy, of everything you ever hoped for for your friend, write one blaming yourself if you so need, speak it to someone, go see a psychologist or a counsellor or a trusted advisor. It always seems so obvious to us after the fact of the matter, it seems like we should have been able to do something, perhaps you did, perhaps you did without knowing it on a number of occasions but people who are intent on dying often find a way to die... it's one of the most unfortunate things, but we must go on, we must go on.