Chaos, the Ability to Perceive Options

I promised this thread on another discussion thread and now...I have to deliver.
Just what makes Chaos Magic(k) chaotic?
We are beings with the ability to perceive many things but is Chaos one of them?
How, as organized life forms, are we able to conceptualize Chaos and then produce a 'system' of magic that utilizes this principle? (the idea of a 'system' implies order by its very nature)
A close friend and I are in the middle of this debate...he's a Molecular Biophysisist and I'm a dropout. He claims evidence of chaos exists in many ways and I've asked him to illustrate this. So far I've not heard of anything objective. True, we can say 'chaos' and write 'chaos' but we are doing so with the tools of order.
Let me bow out for awhile and let the over heated air cool and invite ideas from the Forum. Remember, this is a debate/discussion and we should agree to disagree rather than slinging shots! OK? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/huh.gif)

the order you can perceive is only one of two things.
1. an illusion.
2. created by humanity.

On a large scale you have the solar system, which appears to be in order.
But this is not true, the time frame is shifted from normal human appearance. If you look at a time frame that is more suited to the grandeur of a solar system. You can see that in a slice of about the life of our sun. Our solar system is just a small outburst in the chaos, extremely unstable. The sun literally destroys itself. Calling our solar system is like calling the element fire stable, is a flame really that stable? once its combustion fluid is burned away it is gone. (i know the sun is a nuclear fusion process, but the result is the same...)

In nature there is no order. Life just seems to come into existence when the right properties are there. Note evolution, evolution is skipping the order. If there was perfect order then evolution would not happen.
perhaps you say it is part of adaptability. But in fact evolution creates such diversity that it is absurd. No two flies are exactly the same, no two living organisms are exactly the same. Imagine the infinite number of differences. Then imagine that every organism, that once existed in the million years of this earth, are the same. No two trees are the same.
Then imagine that there may have been, or is life on more planets.
And, with the life forms on this planets, each life form that is capable of thinking has his own unique thoughts, and no two thought forms are the same, you cannot think something exactly the same as you did before.
That does not seem like something neatly ordered to me, the diversity is mind blowing.

Then see how no two stones are the same, no two ripples of water are exactly the same. And there are many planets, even in this solar system that have rocks and fluids and wind.
This diversity is absurd, and chaotic.

gravity may seem like a form of order, but it is not.
Gravity is just a result, it is different from location to location, from planet to planet.

Just name something that appears as order, and if it is not made by man, i will explain how its order is an illusion.