To Forgive and To Forget, Really... how do you do it? Options

Have you had someone really important and beloved to you do something really bad/dissapointing/whatever to you which you simply cannot forgive, not to mention to forget? When in the end you ended up filled with so much hate, mixed with love and resentment no matter what you've tried to really forget and forgive? And the feeling still there like for 2 years as it kept popping into your head even when you were not intentionally want to think and when you least expected it? Well, maybe I'm in a bad mood today, but really... I want to hear your thoughts and experience on dealing with this.

I think that in an ideal world, as the Lord High Executioner once said "the Punishment must fit the crime". Justice is meeted out by the courts.

But on an individual level where possible bygones should be bygones. It could be said that a small mind continues to harbour grievances, whereas a mind set on greater quests in this short life we are given, has ots time cut out elsewhere and has therefore no time to dwell on petty injustices.

This is probably all wrong but my words /thoughts only. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blush2.gif)