To Forgive and To Forget, Really... how do you do it? Options

Have you had someone really important and beloved to you do something really bad/dissapointing/whatever to you which you simply cannot forgive, not to mention to forget? When in the end you ended up filled with so much hate, mixed with love and resentment no matter what you've tried to really forget and forgive? And the feeling still there like for 2 years as it kept popping into your head even when you were not intentionally want to think and when you least expected it? Well, maybe I'm in a bad mood today, but really... I want to hear your thoughts and experience on dealing with this.

"Vengence is mine, saith the Lord", an ancient wisdom text which I take to mean, there is ultimate justice on an eternal, 'cosmic', and therefore often inscrutable level for each individual soul. On a more direct level, it means, vengence - and punishment, however we may dress it up in legal language and the Responsibilities of the Citizen, is nothing else - is not ours. Any believer in karma (which nothing in the Old Testament contradicts) can only, logically, conclude that forgiveness is a moral duty, since the desire to hurt others (a) is harmful, leading to an overall increase in the pain and disharmony of the world, and (b) is superfluous, since the initial transgressor has already been "punished" in precise and all-encompassing proportion by the further distancing of their soul from the Light.

Herr Doktor Freud has some rather wise things to say about the human desire to punish and be punished, as does Professeur Foucalt.

In summary, I take a two-line approach to forgiving and forgetting: meditate on the reality of Univeral Justice, however it manifests for you, and learn the hidden names of those daemons who drive your darker thoughts.

Blessings