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To Forgive and To Forget, Really... how do you do it?

+ Kinjo -	Jun 6 2005, 02:01 PM Post #1
Bu Kek Siansu Posts: 1,173 Age: N/A Gender: Male From: Parijs van Java Reputation: 5 pts	Have you had someone really important and beloved to you do something really bad/dissapointing/whatever to you which you simply cannot forgive, not to mention to forget? When in the end you ended up filled with so much hate, mixed with love and resentment no matter what you've tried to really forget and forgive? And the feeling still there like for 2 years as it kept popping into your head even when you were not intentionally want to think and when you least expected it? Well, maybe I'm in a bad mood today, but really... I want to hear your thoughts and experience on dealing with this. --------------------

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A_Smoking_Fox	Aug 15 2005, 11:22 AM Post #2
Zelator Posts: 465 Age: N/A From: Belgium Reputation: 3 pts	Holding grudges is bad for your spiritual development. Hating people for the acts they have committed is counter productive, you allow the person you hate to damage you twice, once by the thing they did to make you hate the person, and the second time by the act of hate itself. I do not hate, i do not hold grudges, people that have wronged me are banned from my mind, i forget their existence. If i do exact vengeance, it remains with that act of vengeance and it does not escalate in my mind to form some thought pattern i have no need for. Holding a grudge is in no way a punishment for the person that wronged you. He will not die or feel bad because you hate him. So why hate him if it does not affect him? This does not mean that people are right when they rape your child, a magician should be able to forget about the person that did this act and not hold a constant hatred or grudge. This is immensely hard, because there is the tendency to be angry when a loved one is ill treated. Personally, i would take my sword and rip the criminal to pieces. In cold blood. And then i would forget about him. I would not do it out of hatred or grudge, but just out of principle... It is hard, but it is for your own good that emotions like hatred and feeling a grudge towards someone should be moved aside. These things are damaging to your own being and have no effect whatsoever on the person in question. -------------------- In LVX, Frater A.V.I.A.F.

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| Kinjo To Forgive and To Forget Jun 6 2005, 02:01 PM

Radiant Star Yes, I had a friend who I liked much more than she... Jun 6 2005, 02:46 PM

UniOne This is your dark or negative experiances... Those... Jun 6 2005, 11:50 PM

Radiant Star Do you know why this is or what it is called in ... Jun 7 2005, 03:39 AM

UniOne Well, it's not really "offical", it... Jun 7 2005, 10:07 AM

Alafair The absolute terminus is a breach of trust and a v... Jun 7 2005, 11:56 PM

UniOne Thanks for the vote of confidence Alafair... Jun 8 2005, 12:07 AM

Mandylion Alafair is quite justified to state that a breach ... Jun 8 2005, 02:06 AM

UniOne What one must remeber when it comes to memeories, ... Jun 8 2005, 10:18 AM

Radiant Star Ah yes, I was forgetting about the trust part, the... Jun 8 2005, 12:07 PM

| Kinjo The issue of Trust... very true indeed. Thanks for... Jun 8 2005, 01:14 PM

A_Smoking_Fox I've never been able to hold a grudge. But the... Jun 8 2005, 02:26 PM

Radiant Star If your story is unusual it may be worth telling..... Jun 8 2005, 03:13 PM

babyalien I try my best not to hold grudges, and what grudge... Jun 8 2005, 03:41 PM

babyalien And another thing, Real wisdom is dangerious, Alwa... Jun 8 2005, 03:53 PM

AgentSartori I for one am not a forgive and forget kind of pers... Jun 9 2005, 06:07 AM

A_Smoking_Fox my story will not provide insights. when i was yo... Jun 9 2005, 07:03 AM

Radiant Star The tiger logic is good. The Tao link is brilli... Jun 9 2005, 08:47 AM

babyalien We have to forgive! why, because it's the ... Jun 9 2005, 12:55 PM

A_Smoking_Fox yes, you are right babyalien. those are the danger... Jun 9 2005, 01:07 PM

babyalien lol Well people not providing agreement with my o... Jun 10 2005, 07:03 AM

A_Smoking_Fox I know someone who thinks that to. But in fact its... Jun 10 2005, 08:19 AM

babyalien I see, I may have psychesis, back then I was delus... Jun 10 2005, 12:19 PM

Alafair Most probably I am out of line here, but maybe you... Jun 10 2005, 01:00 PM

A_Smoking_Fox Alafair is right in some way, it may not be poetry... Jun 10 2005, 01:43 PM

babyalien Thankyou both:) I feel the topic has been lost. Jun 10 2005, 03:38 PM

Silent-Rain i dont forgive and forget because i remember readi... Jun 10 2005, 10:51 PM

Radiant Star I think it means that once we have let go of the s... Jun 11 2005, 05:59 AM

A_Smoking_Fox yes, you are right Silent-rain. It would be hard t... Jun 11 2005, 06:51 AM

Praxis If someone hurts me, I remember not to put myself ... Aug 7 2005, 09:11 PM

Radiant Star Well Praxis, I think forget means don't dwell ... Aug 8 2005, 02:47 AM

soulmage i must admit i cant forgive some things in my life... Aug 12 2005, 04:43 PM

Radiant Star I can see your point and we all learn what hate is... Aug 13 2005, 01:40 AM

soulmage :hmm: well no law system is perfect men are not pe... Aug 14 2005, 02:39 PM

Mandylion I think that in an ideal world, as the Lord High E... Aug 14 2005, 11:27 PM

SlowLoris "Vengence is mine, saith the Lord", an a... Aug 15 2005, 08:19 AM

A_Smoking_Fox Holding grudges is bad for your spiritual developm... Aug 15 2005, 11:22 AM

Wanderer -Hello i m new here and this topic is something i ... Aug 19 2005, 10:49 PM

Mandylion "i forgave alot of realy bad things but i cou... Aug 20 2005, 11:33 AM

Wanderer .....some people will continue their destructive... Aug 20 2005, 05:49 PM

Mandylion Yes, you are quite right in saying that sometimes ... Aug 20 2005, 10:45 PM

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