To Forgive and To Forget, Really... how do you do it? Options

Have you had someone really important and beloved to you do something really bad/dissapointing/whatever to you which you simply cannot forgive, not to mention to forget? When in the end you ended up filled with so much hate, mixed with love and resentment no matter what you've tried to really forget and forgive? And the feeling still there like for 2 years as it kept popping into your head even when you were not intentionally want to think and when you least expected it? Well, maybe I'm in a bad mood today, but really... I want to hear your thoughts and experience on dealing with this.

"i forgave alot of realy bad things but i could never forget them ....now i dont want to forget them they are important lessons that help me prevent and deal with souch things"

I think that if you are a member of this forum you are astute enough to understand that forgetting is part of forgiving. To forgive is to forget.

This might appear odd if some frightful transgression has taken place, for instance a brutal murder or rape or somesuch of someone close to you. But the event cannot be undone, and to carry a grudge through your existences does not auger well for your speedy enlightenment.

I do not understand how there can be positive vengeance or retribution. Both words are negatives. If you are able to forget you should be able to forgive too.

The Enchanted Circle must be recreated if you must, but that smacks of gamer jargon. Rather the enchanted circle surround your head. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tn_dizzy002.gif)

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