To Forgive and To Forget, Really... how do you do it? Options

Have you had someone really important and beloved to you do something really bad/dissapointing/whatever to you which you simply cannot forgive, not to mention to forget? When in the end you ended up filled with so much hate, mixed with love and resentment no matter what you've tried to really forget and forgive? And the feeling still there like for 2 years as it kept popping into your head even when you were not intentionally want to think and when you least expected it? Well, maybe I'm in a bad mood today, but really... I want to hear your thoughts and experience on dealing with this.

Yes, you are quite right in saying that sometimes people need a bit of "tough love" but who are we really to censure and make the decision to humiliate any person into embarassment?

I for one, am not in favour of the eye for an eye principle. Rather I feel that eventually, as in the example given by Wanderer, the unpleasant boss will be eventually hoisted with his own petard by his own foolishness.

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