I was taking an afternoon nap, and as usual, my head was filled with the usual of women, girls, and getting my freak on. (IMG:
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I thought about what I wanted, why I wanted it, and why it felt good.
In short, I didn't like to be so much as the hunter, but rather, I liked to be the one seduced. I thought to myself, "How can I make myself more approachable for a seductive woman?" (IMG:
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So, I began to search the net. Nothing. (IMG:
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First was that stand-offish assistant at the local metaphysical store, staring me down and saying, "If you can't find it within, you will never find without." (IMG:
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Then, it hit me. (IMG:
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I had to be the one to develop seduction. Not the woman. (IMG:
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This is what I learned about the lesson of "As within, therefore without," as it pertains to relationships. Guys, you want something from the feminine? Develop it yourself, so the feminine can connect with you
there.
If anything, the feminine wants to reach you, too!! Do as a real man would and reciprocate the lovins!! (IMG:
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Comments? Thoughts? (especially from the female denizens of SM, I would like your input on what I have discovered, and want to know if you agree?)