"feeding" off of sexual tension/frustration? Options

I have a question for everyone. Does it ever feel like you "feed" off of sexual tension/energy? (not intimacy or sex, (trying to explain this best I can) I guess the feelings/thoughts you get from others projected upon you sexually...if anyone can rephrase that better, please go right ahead!)

Okay, I give off those thoughts/feelings (not body language)...I can feel their vibes/thought projections maybe, but I block them out to a certain extent. This will prob sound bad, but when people are SF (sexually frustrated) I enjoy those feelings I receive from them mentally... Does that make any sense?

Makes perfect sense to me.

Ive felt empowerd somtimes when being
with somone i know in there room. But i
was shacking for a bit later on.

In the situation where I know the tension is going to be realised anyways - I'm with a girl and we're going to go for it - I like to build my own and my partner's tension through teasing and foreplay all that good stuff and then realse that energy through contact that leads to an explosion of that tension. In this situation its not being mean to someone who's sexually frustrated, its good sex. When both partners engage in the building of and release of tension its a lot like building a cone of power or energy that is built up through the body then realsed at the point of climax. That is very enjoyable. If the tension is not released, there's not sex or foreplay, orgasm, that is not desirable and can lead to blue balls, so to speak. In that situation I take it as a form psychic leeching. Somebody manipulates you into being aroused because they can and know they have that power to do so but don't let the person release that sexual tension. Thats just mean in my mind.

This post has been edited by Acid09: Sep 12 2005, 04:38 PM

I think that in any instance of us having power over someone else-that being sexual tension, aggressiveness, sorrow-empowers us and we feed off of that. I personally "get to feed" by the energy build up when I make someone aggressiveness or when I know someone is craving me sexually. I feel that I have power over them, and have control over them so it feeds me. Does it make sense?!!! I'm not sure what to say about sexual frustrations. I guess we all have a way of feeding off of someone else and their energy.

Kat

Makes sense to me and if done with a willing partner I don't think there is anything wrong with that. People engage in all sorts of forms of sex play and domination/agressiveness is just one of those ways. Personally I do not like being placed in any situation, sexual or other where I feel I am being dominated and controled in the sense that I am being manipulated against my will. For me, during sex its even worse because it would be like an insult to my masculinity. Then again thats comming from the stand point the domination and such actually is manipulative and subversive to my desires. However you can explore domination on a lesser extent just through sexual technique. For example girl on top positions - she's in control and personally I don't mind doesn't bother me at all. Kinda nice to have my hands free to explore.... change the channel (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

I guess from my narrow mind we do feed off things, mentally and psychically and I think everybody does it to some extent. But there are good ways to feed yourself and bad ways. Good ways promote happy or at least productive lives and bad ways destroy happy lives and perpetuate misery. Some people really like BDSM, what I would consider the extreme end of feeding off sexual energy through domination. And you know what from a psychological point of view most of the people who are into that lead otherwise normal healthy lives and its just part of the sex that gets them off the best.

My ten cents...

As with all energetic phenomenon, there is in sexual attraction/tension a magnetic and electric aspect. When you're on the magnetic end, and they are on the electric end (you have qualities which attract them, and they, in response to that attractive force, project their lust onto you * ) then you are receiving energy from them. The flip side is that what you represent outwardly, and to some extent on a subtle level 'inwardly' (internal to you, but energetically projective), is your half of the electrical element, while their desire to be with you is their side of the magnetic element. At any time, when there is an exchange of energy, it is always a dual flow. It can make you feel better than you previously did (or any number of other things depending on the person's energy as well as your own) if either both directions are strong, positive flows, or if your flow is weak and passive and their flow is strong and active.

In the first case the two hypothetical individuals in question can keep up the exchange for some time, possible days or even weeks, rarely months, and continue to make one another feel better. However, one side will ultimately become overly magnetic and the other overly electric and energetically - consequently psychologically and in time even physically - one or the other, or both partners will desire to 'flip roles' to rebalance; or simply cut off the exchange and seek another partner or solitude to rebalance that way. One way or another balance will be sought. This can't be observed in the short term except in individuals who are already too magnetic/electric. Think about the hot girl that all the guys are after constantly - she has to really have the hots for a guy to do the deed. The guy that's too electric (or girl), sleeps around until he meets the individual who can not only recieve that electric flow but return it to balance out the over-electrical energy.

In the second case, where one flow is weak/passive, and the other is strong/active, eventually the magnetic/passive/weak flow will overload, and the individual will get tired of the 'oppressive attention'. The electric/strong/active flow will get frustrated and move on. In the very short term (this setup can only last a few hours to a couple of days at most) most individuals will seek balance elsewhere **.

As to the moral stance of actively seeking to enjoy the influx of this energy - there is no real morality on this point, as it is a universal human condition, the rule and not the exception. Those who are uncomfortable in this regard are only uncomfortable typically because they have not gotten adjusted that particular influx of energy. Those same people, although it seems counter intuitive, sustain themselves off of other types of energetic influx that most would consider 'damaging'. And in one sense they are, but at the same time it is better to be getting some energy than none. Don't forget that until we enter into the higher flow of energy that is universally available, we are all vampires, and we all need energy from other people.

Either set up will make you feel good in the short term, and getting your 'fix' this way, is not wrong, however, a person's energy is holographic. Do this too often, especially in the absence of any kind of purifying/self-balancing practice, and you will find yourself developing a lot of problems, psychologically at first, then physically, and in the chronic stages even spiritually.

* Lust and Desire are complicated energetic complexes. Desire is primilarily Magnetic, but has an electric element for most normal individuals. Lust is primarily electric but has a lesser magnetic component for most normal people. They are closely related but are not both always present with one another.

** There are exceptions, and some people who are already unbalanced in the wrong direction will sustain this activity in order to attain balance. Stalkers and chronic 'c*ck-teases' are examples of this on both ends of the spectrum. Some people take years to get tired of unrequited love, some people can lead another person on for years without getting tired of it.